~🌼~ Working on Me ~🌼~ (Self-Help) – Accepting Imperfections- “Boy oh boy, I need help!”

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Hello, All!  

No worries, I’m not going to post any camels wishing you a Happy Hump Day.  LOL!  However, I am going to wish you well on this fine Wednesday!

Today, I wanted to cover the topic of Accepting Imperfections.  

This is something I seriously need help with.  Don’t get me wrong, my friends.  I don’t want to ever be perfect in any way shape or form, too boring for my taste, thank you very much!

What I’m speaking about (or, writing in this case) is that I have so many imperfections that I deal with daily and at times, it can be overwhelming and sometimes crippling.

I will always be a beautiful disaster

First off, I’m overweight.  I know what you’re thinking, ‘So diet. Exercise. Watch what you eat and when you eat.’  Am I right?  I know you’re right.  I wish to hell I had the will-power to work at this.  And, I do plan on working on it soon.  I’ve actually planned on changing my overall view of losing weight, and have noted on my calendar, that when the middle of April is upon us I will be attempting to carry through with a new regiment of eating healthy, exercising, as well as keeping a log on how I’m feeling each day.  

Some of you are probably scratching your heads wondering ‘why the middle of April?’  And, yes, I have an answer for this.  I know myself pretty well, and in the past, when I started something at the beginning of the month, I’m setting myself up for failure.  So, April 14th is the day I begin to set my goal for living a healthier lifestyle.  

If you the reader have any suggestions to get me boosted into living a healthier existence, it would be greatly appreciated.  Please leave your ideas and/or suggestions in the comment section of this post.  

Here is my second issue, and probably my most disgusting problem.

Most people with trichotillomania are also nail biters too. A lot of people with BFRB's like nail biting and Trichotillomania battle multiple behaviors.

For as long as I can remember, I have always bitten my nails.  I don’t mean just a little nibble here and there, but an all-out feasting fest!  ‘Eww, Gross!’ I know, I know.

For almost  25 years I even wore press on nails to hide this defect of mine.  But, as soon as I had the chance, I’d rip them off and start gnawing on them once again.  

I truly believed it was due to my being anxious for most of my life.  Yet, the more it has bugged me the more I wanted to research why I can’t seem to get a grip on this.

Believe it or not, I learned that nail-biting and Trichotillomania are both on the OCD spectrum.  Nail-biting is also known as onychophagy or onychophagia.  Just another fancy and the technical word for a compulsive habit.  Hair pulling falls under the same category too.  It’s more common for people with trichotillomania to bite their nails if they have multiple impulse disorders.

I never had a problem with pulling my hair, thank goodness.  However, this nail-biting is beyond horrible, and it seems that I bite them more so in the evening hours opposed to the daytime.  I would have thought if I was in a relaxed state, I would chew less.  NOPE!  The hardest part of this is that I am so embarrassed by it because of the way my hands look.  I’d take a picture to show you, but I don’t want to scare anyone.  (No joke).

Again, I had absolutely no idea that my nail-biting fell under the spectrum of my already OCD psyche.  

Is Trichotillomania anxiety related? Is hair pulling an anxiety disorder? Is Trichotillomania caused by anxiety?

Trichotillomania is an impulse control disorder and anxiety doesn’t cause it, it triggers it.  CBT therapy is the most commonly used approach to treating trichotillomania because it involves habit reversal techniques. 

I have never discussed this with my own therapist, but I’m sure she has noticed the nailless fingertips in our sessions together.  Thank goodness, I have my appointment with her next Tuesday, March 19th.  It’s been way over a month since our last meeting, and I am in need of seeing her in more ways than one.

Question… Do you or someone you know have the same thing happening with nail-biting and trichotillomania?  If so, have you or them gone through a CBT session in order to reverse this impulse control disorder?  

Can hypnotherapy really stop you biting your nails?

I’d really appreciate the feedback as I know these are two physical and mental issues I’ve been facing for an awfully long time. 

I know self-acceptance is key to self-growth and bettering myself,  this is basically why I am going to be working on both issues.  In future posts of “Working on Me” –  Self-Help, I will keep you updated on my progress.

I thank all of you for reading and thank you in advance for your comments.

Take Care& God Bless!

Beckie 💗

 

 

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Research Credit: Google, WebMD.

 

43 comments

  1. Beckie, I know we’ve only known each other for almost 24 hours now, but I can assure you that you’re still within the specs of normality. If you’re truly interested I can share with you my oddities. My first impressions of you are that of you being an awesome lady. You have your ways about you but I accept them. And if anyone thinks you’re weird, they’re trying to hard to be liked and accepted.

    About the weight thing.. I truly encourage a healthy lifestyle. These are my thoughts.

    https://theeclecticcontrarian.wordpress.com/2019/01/11/marked-by-life/

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  2. As far as weight loss, I hear ya sister! The struggle is real!! I started a paleo lifestyle a couple of years and it really works for me I do 80/20 because if I completely give up dairy and carbs I will fail, I know myself well enough. I still allow myself to have the foods I enjoy and love, just in moderation and fewer and further in between. If you want to keep record of what you eat, I love my fitness pal. It’s a free app, works on your computer, phone, or tablet. It automatically calculates calories, etc, for you. A lot of food items are already entered into your data base, you can even keep track of water in take, etc… Drink LOTS of water, it really does help. I try to drink about a gallon a day, and I add a little splash of lime juice for something extra. I also really like flavored sparklng water. Walking has been the best form of exercise for me, but I love to dance so I do zumba, and my cousin is a professional trainer and he told me in order to actually burn fat I needed to incorporate weight training, so I started doing kettle bells, and I actually really enjoy it! Anyway, if you need an accountability buddy, I’d be happy to help!! 🙂

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  3. Hi Beckie, I am not in the know of diets I am afraid but I would say do it slowly. Don’t try to change everything at once it’s just too much. Start with one habit and then the next. For example find a great healthy breakfast you love and run just with that for a couple of weeks. Then take on lunch or an exercise habit. I believe small steps are much more effective because you gain an easier success which motivates you. As for the nail biting. No idea. I bite the inside of my mouth until it bleeds which is worse because no-one sees it so I am not “forced” to change it. But I also do it more when I am relaxed or when I generally feel better. It’s a little like I need to remind myself that something is not right when I feel ok. If you find a solution let me know 😚🙋‍♀️🐝

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  4. Hey you beautiful disaster, here’s a song of that title

    Now for getting healthier, what I did was walk. Every day. I know your knees aren’t great but get whatever you can…those endorphins are awesome! Don’t “diet”. Eat healthier options, reduce portions, eat slower. I wolf down food and eat too much. It takes a while for stomach to tell brain “STOP”, by then you should’ve stopped a while ago. Lots of water… blah,blah,blah

    Your meds may be a large part of weight gain. Also, as we get older…blah, blah, blah…

    With the nails…no clue. I think your therapist is a great place to start.💌🍀💖

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    • The meds definitely added the pounds on over the course of three years. But, I don’t want to use that as the only excuse.
      Water? OMG! I drink so much dang water, it would make your head spin! At least a minimum of 2 gallons a day. That’s probably where weight gain comes from. Yeah, right!!! LOL!!
      Yes, I am looking forward to seeing m therapist next week. 🤗

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  5. I have been slowly losing weight. All I did was cut way down on wheat and sugar. I eat oats for my grains, mostly, and all but stopped drinking Coke. I also increased my protein intake. I rarely eat meat, but I have oatmeal (it has protein!), hard boiled eggs, peas, cheese and yogurt almost every day. I fill in with other veggies and buy frozen mixed berries to add to my yogurt. I have lost 11 pounds so far. It has not been fast weight loss, but that is okay with me.

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    • Thank you, kindly for all your suggestions. I’m not a soda fan, thank goodness. I drink a ton of water daily or seltzer.
      It’s funny in a sense, I’ve been writing a list of all the stuff I should eat from all the feedback I’ve been getting. The funny part is this is the first time ‘yougurt’ was brough to light. Thank you!
      Congrats on losing 11 lbs, that is awesome! I know not to expect a miracle and watch the pounds fall off me quickly. It took a good three years to get this way, and I’m sure it would take that amount of time to get back to my normal (desired) weight again.
      Thank you very much again!!!!

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  6. I bite my nails too. Have ever since I was little. Now, I pluck the hairs on my chin. Except I can’t stop & pluck until there’s sores, especially when I have anxiety. My therapist is teaching me grounding techniques to help since I disassociate when I do it. That might help you too!

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  7. My husband installed an app for his dieting. It’s pretty neat because you can scan the barcodes of what you eat and it figures the calories.
    The first two days are always the most difficult for me with dieting. After the first week, I can usually keep it up for a month or two before I get bored of it all and too hungry to care. 😀

    I used to nail bite. My mom paid me to stop. I realized that I like them maintained, so I keep them non-bitten by keeping up on home manicures.

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