Hello, All! How are you on this Wednesday? Half the week is over, so most of us should be in a decent mood, no? Okay, okay… We will all be in a better mood once Friday arrives. Gotcha! 😉
This week, I thought I would bring up the topic of… Drumroll, please 🥁
Letting Go of Self-Doubt:
Listen, I may seem to be a pretty positive role model in these parts, but there are times my self-doubt kicks my ass and I feel like a hypocrite. The thing is, is that we all experience this feeling from time to time. If we didn’t, we would be superheroes. Hell, even Superman has doubts about his abilities around kryptonite, am I right?
Lately, I’ve been beating myself up over my writing ability. Okay, you may be thinking to yourselves… ‘this is what she thinks of as a problem?’
Well, to me it is a problem. You see, I have always loved to read. I especially love poetry. The unfortunate problem of this is that I tend to compare myself to others. I have done this since I was a kid. (Not necessarily for writing), but I always had issues with doubting just about anything I set out to do.
I’m not going to place blame on any one individual that may have contributed to my feeling this way, because quite frankly, it really doesn’t matter at this juncture.
It’s my own insecurities that get in the way. Overthinking and self-criticism. In other words, I am my own worst enemy. Admit it, some of you feel the same way, am I right?
Well, if you answered or thought “Yes” to that question, here is what I’ve been working on to overcome the feelings of self-doubt. I hope that perhaps they help you with overcoming your own feelings of what steals away from your happiness.
Whenever you’re challenged, be prepared for the little voice inside you. It will try to stop you from doing what you set out to do. Be ready and in a stronger position to stop it. Be super aware the next time you sense that little self-doubt creeps saying, “Give it up.” or, “You can’t do it.” – Block that voice out and replace it with positive reinforcements by repeating over to yourself, “I can handle this.” or, “I’m gonna give it my best shot!” If you don’t give yourself the opportunity to attempt something, you’ll never know if you could have pulled off the challenge in the first place.
Find something positive or interesting in every project you put your mind to.
It’s not just my writing that irks me at times, but even when I’m working on my crocheting projects. I really am my worst critic. If I find one flaw, I pull out the entire thing and restart it. I’m adding stress to myself. Unwanted stress. Now I ask you, how ridiculous is that? One tiny imperfection wouldn’t even be noticed by someone else, but I notice it and frustrate myself. It’s a vicious cycle. However, it is one I’m learning to let go of.
Worst case scenario… Think to yourself, “What is the worst thing that can happen?” If you doubt yourself, your default position will be to expect the worst. Counteract this by thinking of the last time something catastrophic happened because of what you said, did, or tried to do. Nothing catastrophic took place… You are only fooling yourself, because of the little self-doubt creeps chattering away in your head. We must ignore that little voice!
One thing I have learned over time is that I have to learn from my failures. I didn’t say give up because I failed at something, I said learn from my failures. Big difference.
Learning from failures you’ve had and then set them aside. Whether they stem from anxiety, bad memories, or experiences can strengthen and discipline your thinking for the next time you set out to do something you want to do. It’s all in your mindset, don’t allow the little creeps to interfere with decision making and/or creativity.
I may not be the best at anything in particular, but I’ll be damned if I’m gonna give up on myself, and neither should you!
I leave you with this question… Does self-doubt hold you back from something you want to accomplish or that can make you happy?
If so, please write them in the comment section of this post. Between myself and other readers comments, maybe we can put our heads together and help one another out. Sound like a plan?
In the meantime, I hope you all have a wonderful Wednesday!
Take Care & God Bless,
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