Today, I just wanted to jump right into my subject matter of fear/anxiety. They pretty much walk hand in hand, am I right? The “What-ifs” are another factor that twists their way into fear/anxiety.
I know that when I fear the unknown, (like most people do), I feel a loss of control over a situation. I have self-doubt and my whole demeanor changes. I become restless, my mind spins an intricate web of thoughts I don’t want to even think about.
Fear, for me naturally sets off my anxiety. Palms sweat, heart rate feels like it’s going to burst, mind races like the Indie 500, and I’m exhausted from it.
For a couple weeks now, basically, since the beginning of the New Year, I have been working on my self-control of fear/anxiety. Sure, it has messed with my insomnia, but that to me is nothing new. I’m speaking of really working on coping with my fears/anxiety.
Granted, being on medication for anxiety certainly helps. However, that only takes care of some of the symptoms, and not being the cure-all. All the things I haven’t had control over I seriously had to just accept.
Examples: Brother facing homelessness, Mother going into hospital for an on-going infection that developed in her ankles, and facing a procedure, developing a nasty cold where I am coughing up blood periodically, and learning that I have been accepted into a permanent housing facility.
Okay, I know… There are a few things I have control over but at the same time when facing them head-on in the present moment, I feel fear take its toll on me.
My attitude in recent weeks has been, “Enough is enough!” I gained some of my self-control back and faced my anxieties head-on.
- I am not my brothers-keeper. I can help guide him and be open to listening to him, but he is not my responsibility.
- My mother is being well taken care of in a very good hospital and the doctors and nurses are helping her in every capacity.
- Already planned on seeing my primary care doctor this upcoming Thursday for a referral. I will then bring up the nasty cold and probably have a chest x-ray. (No need to panic over it, “Yet” that is).
- I am currently renting a room at my roommate’s house. We are good friends and have discussed this thoroughly. We both need one another to be able to afford to reside in this lovely (Sarcasm, folks) state of New Jersey. Plus, we are talking about moving to North Carolina in the future. Heck her entire family is looking to move.
By taking all things into consideration and facing up to terms of what I have control over and what I don’t, my fears & anxiety have been kept on an even keel.
I have kept myself busy with reading, writing, cleaning, scheduling appointments, as well as planning on going out to celebrate my roommates birthday this evening. I’m also getting my hair done this afternoon. Sure, I still don’t feel that great, but I’ll be damned if this coughing and not feeling that great is going to stop me.
I guess my point is… Feel the fear, then let it go. Jump in and do it, whatever that it is your facing – tackle it. If you learn to cope and accept it, you will be able to handle it a bit smoother than before.
That’s it for this weeks series of “Working on Me ~ Self-Help”
What and how do you handle your own fears and anxiety? Do you have a certain method? Please share with me and other readers how you cope with the handling of the following.
Take Care & God Bless,
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