Hi All! Welcome to “Working on Me” This is a series that I’m working on in order to help myself as well as help you if I can.
Each week, I try to work on Self-help, by selecting something I am trying to cope with. This week, I’ve been trying to work on motivation. Hell, who am I kidding, the last few weeks, I’ve been trying to work on that.
People that suffer from depression have a harder time motivating themselves and practicing self-care. There are days when it is so challenging to get out of the bed, take a shower, brush my teeth, and keep up with all the little mundane things like cleaning the house. I know I’m not alone in this, I read a great deal of other bloggers post. It’s also difficult when we fall into patterns that we simply cannot break ourselves out of.
I’ve been reading Melody Beattie’s book “The Language of Letting Go” for this particular issue I’ve been having, I thought I would share some of what she writes about it, naturally, I will add my thoughts to it as well.
A slump can go on for days even weeks. We feel sluggish, lethargic, have absolutely no motivation to do the things we know we should be doing. We feel unfocused and sometimes overwhelmed with feelings we can’t sort out. I know I walk around, or in most cases lay around thinking “WTF? is wrong with me?” Again, I know I’m not alone with this kind of thought process.
Melody write’s: In a slump, we may find ourselves reverting instinctively to old patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving, even when we know better. We may find ourselves obsessing, even when we know obsessing doesn’t work.
Now I know to obsess kinda goes along with anxiety and depression, we tend to worry about every little thing, but we also know that those feeling do eventually pass. They will eventually go away.
I have been forcing myself literally daily now for over a week to make sure I’m up out of bed no later than 9 am. I do my little ritual of checking WordPress first thing, then I move to my morning meditation which normally takes 15-20 minutes. I write a list of what I believe I can accomplish during the day. A reasonable list, not one that I know I am setting myself up to fail. I purposely read positive quotes and publish them not only for readers to enjoy, but to give me that boost I need to motivate and stimulate my emotions. I’m not gonna lie and say I eat the best things for myself, but that is something I need to change because I know that would help with my overall mood.
As the day progresses, I check off the list the things I have accomplished. Again, a reasonable list that is not that overwhelming to me. Like dusting the bedroom. I turn on some upbeat 70’s or 80’s music and sing while doing this chore. Before I know it. The chore is done. I feel like I have succeeded at something, and I feel better knowing that I got myself to do it.
Melody also states, practice changing one behavior at a time in one small area and you will begin to climb uphill. Soon, the slump will disappear. We can never judge where we will be tomorrow by where we are today.
Baby steps are all that it takes to get out of feeling unmotivated. Like I said and always will say. “I’m a work in progress”, and I don’t expect things to change overnight. I have to work really hard to break myself out of a slump.
So, with that being said. I am now going to conquer dusting my bedroom since that is on my list of things to do today, and if you hear me singing, I formally apologize to you all. LOL! 🙂
Take Care & God Bless,