Good Afternoon All! How are you? Did you have a good weekend? I know here in New Jersey, it was nice on Thursday through Friday, almost Summer like. Now, it’s back to the bottom dropping out Again, and we are back in the 40’s, temperature wise. Mother Nature, can be so cruel at times. I’ve heard from other blogger’s, that out in the Mid-West, they were hit with more of that white shit that seems to want to cover the area until this Summer. “I mean really, WTF?” I think I can truly speak for all of us when I say… “If we don’t get out from hibernation soon, we’re gonna all go postal!”
Today, I wanted to bring up something rather personal to my readers, in fact, I’ve already gone back and forth with “The Bipolar Writer” about depression and boundaries a bit this morning. In fact, I discuss this with my mother down in Florida a great deal of the time. I really don’t know if it’s me, or forces inside the household that are making me more depressed and full of anxiety due to boundaries that never seem to be in place. Most times, I would take the blame for just about everything under the sun, but this time… If I don’t get it out of my system, I’m gonna snap for sure.
I would direct this to the person who is creating this unwarranted anxiety, but this person has their own issues that she is dealing with too. For which, I am empathic with. But! There comes a time when the boundaries have gone to codependency, and that is what has me in a dither.
My roommate and I tend to get along pretty good in my opinion. However, it has been strained lately because of what is going on in her life, and no one else. She suffers from social anxiety and depression herself, amongst other physical ailments. All of which, I have been through it all with her, and have been a good friend while helping all this time. This is not to say she hasn’t been a good friend, but (There’s that nasty little word again… But,) It’s gotten to the point where I feel like I’m no longer the friend but have turned in to the human alarm clock to wake her for appointments etc… and take care of her pets for her because she is always, and I mean always asleep.
Back in January of this year, maybe some of you remember, she had to have pretty evasive surgery, and I for one was a nervous wreck for her because she could have died. She was instructed to stop smoking once and for all, and since then she’s started up again, amongst smoking other stuff. This is all blamed on her anxiety and stress. Now, I can understand to a point, but really? She almost loses her life, so let’s start smoking and coughing up a third lung? It’s like she has given up on herself, and dragging me down the path of a deeper depression than I was in in the first place. She rarely takes care of herself, let alone the household. The pets are always looking for me to take care of them, and then she states she wants to get another dog. Again… “WTF?”
Okay, I’m obviously freaking the “F” out here, and this week I think I need to be reminded how boundaries work. So, with this being said… Starting tomorrow, I am going to share with you how to set healthy boundaries and coping skills for stressful situations. Maybe, if I share with you, it will also help me out in the long run too.
Sound like a decent plan? Maybe, you can share your experiences in the comments section, and we can all help one another.
Until tomorrow, I hope you have a great day. Monday’s at least almost over with, and I think I’ll end with a mindful meditation to help me deal with all this angst I have built up. Hope you enjoy it too.
Take Care & God Bless,
[Picture courtesy of Pinterest, Youtube Mindfulness Video]