In a culture where approval/disapproval has become the predominant regulator of effort and position, and often the substitute for love, our personal freedoms are dissipated.
* Wanting other’s to approve our efforts, our appearance, our aspirations, and behavior are perfectly normal, certainly not unhealthy. However, needing the approval in order to proceed with our lives is.
In early childhood, we are taught to obey others and to please them. We confuse love with approval, and we begin to march to someone else’s drum. Then we get even more approval. But soon we get out of step with ourselves; we neglect our personal needs and become puppets.
(* Excerpt from Karen Casey’s “Each Day a New Begining” – A Meditation Book & Journal For Daily Reflection)
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